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Abusive parents
will often target one child for all or most of the abuse, while treating the
other children somewhat better, or making other children their favourite/golden
child. I thought this was just a symptom of narcissism, their desire to be
viewed as a good parent stored in one child they spoil or try to make into a
copy of themselves, and their desire to be a terrifying monster who has power
and control over a vulnerable human stored in another. However, the problem
runs deeper than that.
If you abuse all
of your children, there’s a good chance the kids will unite and stand against
you. Abusing only one child and then sparing others is not only a narcissistic
move, but a strategic one. And don’t think abusers have to be smart to
strategize, this is done by instincts. You can feel if you continually hurt a
group of people that you gave them a reason and motivation to unite and stand
against you. If abused siblings can bond over their abuse, they can create a
strong connection, and support each other thru the abuse. They can validate
each other’s experience and make sure they all know what’s the truth. They can
support each other’s words and arguments, and even prove something in court.
Having multiple victims affirm abuser’s wrongdoings, who are completely certain
in their experience and not alone and isolated from support, that’s an abuser’s
worst nightmare.
However, if you
only abuse one of your children, and then spare the rest, you have created the
environment where nobody will stand against you and side with the victim. The
other children will see the abuse and subconsciously fear that they’ll end up
as the next target - and they’ll do whatever it takes to avoid it. They’ll side
with abuser, help with the abuse, validate abuser’s side, avoid the abused
child or reject them, agree with abuser that the abused sibling deserved it or
had it coming. They want to be on the safe side, they don’t want to endure the
same abuse, and if you convince them that the abused one is only the target
because of some trait - like, they kid is rebellious, or sensitive, or strong,
or weak, or annoying or different in any way - then all they have to do is not
show these behaviours and they’ll be safe. Until the first victim gets away
that is. Then they might get a glimpse of the truth - child’s traits don’t
matter.
Abuser will pick
out the victim that they feel is safest to abuse. It means they might pick out
introverted kid who stays alone a lot, vs extroverted, who might have a lot of
friends and would tell someone very soon. They might pick out more hardworking
kid because it’s easier to gain profit off of it and bully them into
submission. They might pick the kid with strong morals because a kid with
strong morals is unlikely to side with the abuser, so they would become a
threat if another child is abused in front of them. They might pick a kid who
is more compassionate and kind than others because then they can blackmail and
guilt them into submission more easily. They’re aiming to create the
environment of having one kid isolated, not believed, not supported, not taken
seriously, and emotionally abandoned by everyone, even their own family
members.
Don’t think they
don’t make this on purpose, having one child completely alone in their pain,
and fighting against the entire world when they’re trying to prove that they’re
being unfairly hurt and mistreated, it’s exactly what they aim and plan for.
Every parent who causes this kind of horrible suffering to their child has a
special place in hell where nobody cares about their version of the story.
